I work as a coach with people on attention, executive function, and the thinking patterns sitting underneath both. Most of them are neurodivergent adults who are capable in every visible way and stuck in ways nobody else can see — the gap between what they can obviously do and what they can reliably get themselves to do.
Most of that work isn’t about strategies. It’s about looking closely at what actually happens in the moment something doesn’t get done, which is almost never what either of us assumed it would be. Diagnosis before intervention. Understanding the mechanism first, and only then deciding whether anything needs building.
Where the writing comes from
These guides come out of two places. One is the coaching — patterns that show up again and again across very different people, until it becomes obvious they aren’t personal failings but structural features of how minds work.
The other is my own self-study, which has been running a long time and in several directions at once: yogic philosophy and the Sanskrit psychological vocabulary that comes with it, Internal Family Systems, trauma-informed frameworks, and cognitive science. I don’t treat these as competing accounts. They describe overlapping territory in different languages, and having more than one language for something makes it easier to see.
Everything here has been tested on myself first. Usually reluctantly, and usually after a long period of avoiding it, which is itself most of what I write about.
How to read these
Each guide takes one mechanism and looks at it until it can be named, caught in the moment, and worked with. They’re short on purpose. They’re meant to be used the same day you read them, not filed away for a version of you who has more time.